How many times have you heard a no to your dream?
How many times you wanted something so bad and everywhere you turned it was a no?
My life is built on “no” or some kind of condition “if you do this you might just get what you asked for”. I grew up like that. Looking back, it was a good training as in life I don’t just get something because I want it. I always had to work for everything I’ve achieved in my life.
For instance, I was told I cannot do a particular level of a language exam because of my school being an art school. I fought to be able to do an exam in the level I wanted. I got it. I passed. Everyone told me I wouldn’t pass higher level exam. I showed them I can. I had to study more, work harder and I got what I wanted.
Just because someone says no to you doesn’t mean it’s an actual no. I always hear stories of actors and people whom achieved some kind of fame they’ve had millions of no’s. I don’t want to be famous but it’s just an example of people getting there after many no’s. No is hard to hear particularly if you continuously try.
For instance, if you keep on painting, and painting, and painting, and getting nowhere; cannot earn a living so have to get a job that pays the bills. Most people work a 9–5 and dream of doing something they love. Creating a business on a side or creating whatever the dream is. The challenge to keep going when most of your time is spent working for somebody else.
Challenges make life interesting, however, one has to have the right mindset to see it that way. Most of the time when it comes to things that matter, for instance, your life depends on it, it’s hard to be relaxed about it. For me, when I hear a no it makes me say no to a no. I see it as a challenge worth getting over and prove it wrong.
It’s exactly the same as back when I was at school and I was told I cannot do an exam in the level I wanted. I proved everyone wrong. Not only did I get to do an exam I wanted I also passed it. Only a person fighting knows what’s true to them and they know how much gas they’ve got for their own truth. I know for sure I won’t stop until it’s a yes. It might take me some time but who cares, right?
Most important is to keep going. Keep writing, keep creating, keep doing what you doing because that’s the only way. What to do otherwise? Accept the loss? Accept you can never have what you dreamt? It’s hard but one has to also know when to stop and understand the defeat. One has to be intelligent to understand when to stop and find other ways to get where one wants to go.
I don’t love a challenge but I have to love it and win for me whatever that is. Win is a win as long as no-one gets hurts and the world is a better place. I strive to be better, do better create more and come out at the other end much richer person than I was yesterday.