If you are with man whom you think is amazing, fits everything but there’s one major detail that doesn’t fit, he is not your man! Let me explain.
You can have many disagreements or be different to your loved one when it comes to what flowers to have in your garden, what name to give to your children, whether you like your room hot or cold, what’s the appropriate time to eat dinner and so on. That’s not what I mean when I say there’s one detail that doesn’t fit and sets you apart.
What I mean is if you want a real relationship and the guy is not committing to you but he is perfect otherwise. Run! Yes, I know he is understanding, loving, caring and supportive in everything you do. However, he doesn’t commit. Why would you want to be with someone who isn’t willing to be with you in a committed relationship?
You spend time with him and it’s always amazing. He gives you strength. He is your one and only support when you feel down. However, he won’t commit. He won’t sacrifice his bachelor life for you. Let me break it to you, he is not for you. Let him go! I know it’s hard to let someone so perfect go. It’s imaginary and not perfect! He is the one who doesn’t want you.
“But if I spend a little more time with him maybe he will change his mind.” You might be thinking that. It’s your dream that will never come true. A man either wants to commit or he doesn’t. It doesn’t matter what you do or how much time you spend. You’ve already spend a considerable amount of time and you are still in the same position without him committing to you. Let him go.
Don’t spend your time talking to him. Don’t spend your time being nice to him. He is not that just into you. The only person will be hurt and live in a constant wish land of being with him is you. You will spend your time wishing to be with him and miss other opportunities to find real love. This is such a waste of time and “empty suffering”!
Have a little bit more respect for yourself and let the men who don’t love you back go. If a man is not willing to spend time with you, sail through the oceans and spend every minute of your life together he is not for you. Otherwise you only love a wish of somebody who isn’t there. It’s all imaginary and nothing is real.
Why do women think if the man doesn’t love them they invest more time in one man? We somehow programmed to believe that if we make a bit more effort he’ll realise how amazing we are. It will never happen. Stop feeling sorry for yourself because one man doesn’t love you back. There’s a sea of men and one of them will love you back.
There is love you have been looking at the wrong places. There is love but you are blind because you live in the imaginary relationship with a man who doesn’t and will not love you back. Women and a few friends of mine waste time on men whom won’t love them back. If someone doesn’t like you you shouldn’t like them back. It’s a self inflicted torture.
If you want real love and fulfilling relationship make that decision and focus. Any fluff that comes your way and wants your body but not you ignore. Focus on the love that is right in front of you but you are blind because you are wasting time on the wrong person. Creating dreams in your head with somebody who will not be with you for the right reasons.
Those reasons you set; you create; you can and will find love but you have to make some changes in how you love yourself. If you really love yourself you wouldn’t spend time on somebody who isn’t willing to love you back. First, believe love and love yourself. Second, don’t give into any nonsense. Third, be open to anything around you and don’t judge.
I am sending you lots of love and the real love is waiting for you!