Judgement is universal. One can never escape a judgement. You can be rich or poor — no-one will run away from judgement. It’s either you who is judging or you are being judged. It’s conscious or unconscious it’s always there no matter what you do. In Christianity you are taught about judgement. You are afraid of judgment too because you are taught you are always guilty and have to continuously repent.
I am not going into a religious argument here. Maybe another time. What’s interesting how people judge each other. I never know if it comes from their kindness or a darker place. For instance, if I get a good ‘judgement’ from someone does that mean it comes from a good place or a bad one? If it’s a bad judgement of me does it come from a good or bad place? I will never know.
What fascinates me is not to judge someone immediately. When I meet people I never judge them. I am old enough to know not to judge a book by its cover. This allowed me to meet interesting people. People whom become an inseparable part of my life. I met some of my best friends because I didn’t judge them. It’s so easy to brush people off because they don’t fit ‘the look’.
However, a millionaire can dress like a homeless person. I met a famous film director on the corner of the Ritz. He asked me for a lighter. I didn’t have one. However, we started talking and it turned out to be the most interesting person. London is full of interesting people in disguise. If I had been a closed off person or passed judgments and would think everyone is out there to get me I wouldn’t have met an interesting film director.
Most people are not willing to engage on the streets because they are afraid of the weirdos. There is a six sense as they call it which can be part of the guidance. This is part of the judgement too. Six sense is a feeling and it’s individual. Some people can have a clouded judgment and their six sense is not true. Some have a six sense on point.
One has to be honest with oneself when calling on the feeling and know what’s true or false. My six sense has never been wrong yet. However, there has been times when I wasn’t sure about something and couldn’t decide and later transpired what was wrong. My mum taught me not to be too harsh with my judgements on people. I used to be super harsh on people before.
If I saw a drunk person on the street I would judge them terribly. My mum told me once, be kind with your judgement because you don’t know what this person is going through. One day it might be you and you might need a kind person to understand you. It took me a while to understand this but today I get it. Don’t be harsh on people because one day it might be you.
It’s like an old saying goes ‘treat others how you want to be treated’ and it’s the same with judgements. Judge everyone how you want to be judged. It’s when you have guests in your house. Treat your guests how you’d like to be treated. If I ruin someone else’s house how would I feel when they ruin mine? Simple. Anyway, who are you to judge anyone?
No-one is ever perfect. We are all have faults. We all have done things we are not proud of. We have made mistakes. In order for anyone to judge anyone they have to be squeaky clean themselves. Judgments are wrong whether they come from good or bad place. It’s a judgment and no-one should pass judgements on people.
I believe in one kind of judgment and it’s how kind are you to others and yourself? Be kind to yourself with your own judgements and be kind to others. I have always said kindness always pays. The kinder you are to yourself and others the whole world around you becomes kind. Your life will be buckets of love and kindness. Who doesn’t want that?