If I have a white space and I am given a choice to do something what do you think my future choice will be? If I am given a white space with lots of things in it, what do you think my future choice will be? It has become popular to let people choose whatever they want to do. Worse even, to let children choose whatever they want to do.
It’s great to have choices and it’s great when people choose for themselves. However, it’s seriously messed up if I think I will make great future choices without given a world view of possibilities. I have to be exposed to all possible opportunities in life in order for me to make the best possible choice for my future.
If am given a choice when I am exposed to different things I have an experience of those things. For instance, if I am exposed to tennis, horse riding, reading, swimming, basketball, maths, physics and I am doing it for a great number of years; not just one or two years when I was little, I will have a greater understanding of what things are.
It’s not about what I like or don’t like because when I grow up I will have to do many things I don’t like.
It’s about being given different options from which I can make an informed decision for my future.
I have to be great at everything I do when I am at school. I have to have the basics right in order for me to succeed in whatever I may choose to do in a future. If I have a great foundation I can have anything I like. When I am little I am like a sponge and I can become anything my parents wants me to become.
It’s not about me being good at one thing or the other. It’s about how many hours I put in it.
Therefore, it’s never about what I am good at. It’s about how much time my parents have so I can go to painting, maths, basketball classes or whatever that is. It’s my parents hard work that gives me options for my future.
If am given a choice when I am not exposed to anything I have no experience and I have no idea what I could do. When I was growing up there was no internet I read as many books as I could. I was exposed to the magical world of books. I didn’t know anything about celebrities. I knew nothing about fame. Fame, as it is known now, didn’t exist in my world.
I saw great actors and musicians but nobody talked about them being famous. Now kids are exposed to social media and phones. I am a great advocate for social media but not for kids. I mean kids at any age should not use social media maybe from 18…? Why? Because social media is full of famous people looking good and doing nothing.
If you have no other influence but social media and the Kardashians what do you think the choices the kids will make for their future? I don’t want to know the answer to that. I fear the answer.
What it comes down to is the influence the children have when they grow up.
My mother decided to read books to me when I was little and then later influenced me reading it, then I will read and have a better understanding of the world. The choices I will make in a future will be an informed choices. My mother didn’t read books to my brother. He likes books. He reads a bit but not as much I do.
The choices I make and the choices my brother makes are so different today. The one different thing my mother did between us is reading books. We couldn’t be more different even if we wanted to. It’s important to what I am exposed to when I am growing up but also the parents hard work in creating options for me.
The choices I make today is because of what I have been exposed to by my parents and their hard work in showing me those options. Not because I am good at something. Not because I pluck it from the air and decided this is what I like to do.
Everything I do is influenced by somebody. Nothing is given to me.
I have been given an unknown time on this planet, a head, two arms and legs.
I have a responsibility to create whatever I choose to create. What I do today is because of my parents, their hard work and nothing else. Not my gifts and talents but hard work. If it wasn’t for my mother I wouldn’t be writing or reading. My mother forced me to read at first until it became a second nature to me. She gave her extra time so I can read more.
The real take away from this is, what you do today will be your tomorrow. If I sit at home looking at my phone so will my kids. If I do something with my time so will my kids.
Everything I am is because of what I have been taught.
Everything I do today is because my mother spend time teaching me, taking me to classes and working with me on my homework.
My parents gave me the basics on which I continuously build on. The basics such as good education, be kind and read more. Without the basics I couldn’t grow, create and keep on becoming.