I have watched so many films about love. I have listened to so many stories about love. I have asked questions about love everyone who was in love. There are plenty of stories about finding love, being in love and most of them end with a wedding. There’s many films about broken relationships and marriages. However, very few films about happily ever after.
One year ago today I married a man of my dreams and my happily ever after started. One year may not count as much but being happily ever after without much effort is something. How do people stay happily ever after? If you ask this questions to a hundred of couples you will have hundred of answers.
There’s no universal truth about being happy after marrying someone. After all, the divorce rates increases. When I was growing up no-one has ever thought of divorce. My mum, however, managed to get a divorce. I was the only kid in the class with a divorced parents. One could say I was a legend at the time. Now it’s legendary if people stay together. How life has changed??!!!
Why there aren’t many films about happily ever after? I know the answer. Happy lives are boring. Everyone loves drama, excitement and some kind of intrigue. Being happily married there isn’t much to talk about apart from being truly happy. And what’s intriguing about being happy? If, however, the happily ever after contained some kind of drama it’s worth making a film about.
I remember on my writers course in South Africa, I was thinking of my books’ premise, theme and the intrigue. I had come up with something crazy even I was shocked. “I couldn’t write that” I thought to myself. My teacher William Whitecloud, who’s written two books The Magician’s Way and The Last Shaman with a third on its way told me:
“Nobody likes happy travelling character, everyone loves blood! Why do you think blood scenes are in almost every film or book? People love violence in some way. People love intrigue. You need shocking scene in your book.”
So there you have it. Happily ever after is not interesting enough to make films about. However, everyone wants to have the happily ever after. Films, books and life are different! I have mentioned a few times in my blog that men and women are the same and want the same love and be loved.
After all, if you don’t have love what else is there? I have always believed in happily ever after. Happily ever after doesn’t need much effort either if you are with the right partner husband/wife. Life is effortless and I mean effortless. Sure, everyone has their trials and tribulations but it always ends up with a hug and a kiss. Why it’s easy?
When people say you are with a right person everything just works it really does work. You don’t need to be who you are not. Even if you look your worst they love you. When you are sick your other half bring you things you always love like freshly squeezed orange juice. The right person supports you in a way they only know how.
The right person encourages you, pushes you, sometimes makes you do things you don’t want like go to a party at 10pm at night. The right person makes it all all right whatever that’s wrong. When you fall, the right person is there to pick you up, hold you, hug you, support you and make it better. With the right person you sleep better.
The list is endless. All of it doesn’t take much effort! When you love someone and the next second they get on your nerves and they do something magical you cannot, simply cannot not love them. Life is easy when you have a partner in crime, who no matter what, is with you.
I wish everyone to have happily ever after they dream of even it doesn’t make a good film!