The definition of feminism “the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes” somehow has been lost in today’s world. Yes, women gained equality but what kind? They go to work, look after the children, cook and clean the house…The amount of work that a woman does is crazy! How is this equality compared to a man who just goes to work and comes back home to watch football?
It has become a norm to see half naked women, with pumped up lips and fake eyelashes. The age of these young women to be is 15 year olds if not 13 years old. Since when feminism was meant to do that to young girls? 18 year old or something dancing half naked on a pole and it’s considered to be a norm and an expression of art. Maybe. Maybe I am too old fashioned.
When it becomes dancing for money half naked that’s no longer feminism today. It’s ok to want to be an actress — study theatre. Read Shakespeare plays. Go to plays. Learn about evolution of theatre. Be cultural. I am not ok with the girls wanting to be an actress so she can go to a Hollywood and be famous. That’s wrong.
When young girl’s (13 year old) the only aspiration is to become an actress and be famous this no longer is feminism. To me this has become a monster of “feminism”. We in our society, allow our young girls to “prostitute” themselves and be ok with it. It looks so innocent at first. “She’s just taking acting classes” or “It’s a very first time she got plastic nails on” or “Let her try some false eyelashes”or “She must go to a hair salon to do her hair”.
If I were to confront them with it, it’s me who’s at fault and don’t understand the freedom of expression. I just wish we didn’t hide behind the definition of “feminism” and call it for what it actually is — going towards prostitution and selling themselves for the looks and the body. I get attacked by changing my surname to a married name and being called that I am someone’s property as a result. I am told I am not a feminist because I’ve taken my husband’s name.
All I can say to that is wow! People don’t mind young girls prostituting themselves and call it freedom of expression but if a woman decides to change her name to a married one she’s no longer a feminist. I have no words. This world has gone bonkers! I grew up with the strongest woman I know and it is my mother. She changed her name to a married one but that didn’t stop her to do things she wanted.
I understand in some cultures women don’t take husband’s name like in Italy or Spain. That’s why Spanish end up with 4 or more surnames. It’s ok but there’s no need to “attack” women who take their husband’s name. Women can be feminist and they can be stay at home mums; women can be feminists and take their husband’s names; women can be feminists without putting masses of make up on and so on.
It doesn’t matter how a woman looks or what she does she can be anything she likes. Why does anyone have to fit into some kind of stereotype? Why a term feminism is used when young women actually prostituting themselves? I don’t agree with it. The suffragettes didn’t fight for us to put fake eyelashes, walk half naked and dance around a pole for money. What’s worse that the parents of young girls allow them to be those young women.
What I would love to see more instead of going to a beauty salon is what books they’ve read, what skills are they learning for their future, how are the children involved in and helping the community. Looking pretty should never be an end goal. Beauty fades, intellect and intelligence lead the way. I hope to see more of young girls investing in their souls rather than the outside.